The Power of the Unconscious Mind
Thursday, June 12th, 2008Don’t read this - it could change your whole outlook and way of communicating.
Don’t even think about it.
Then don’t do things differently
Negative suggestions
Negative suggestions are powerful. Derren Brown on TV recently demonstrated children’s natural curiosity when he left them alone with a box saying “Don’t open the box”. Phrased like that it was impossible for them not to.
Our brains can’t process negatives (and yes, I know that’s a negative). For example, towards the end of a snooker game, a player just had to pot one ball to win a whole tournament. As he was walking around the table deciding how best to take the shot, his opponent whispered “Don’t miss”. Whenever I tell that story there’s an intake of breath from the listener. They don’t need to be told the outcome.
If you hear yourself using unhelpful negative suggestions to other people, when delegating, when speaking to children, even your own self-talk, convert it to something more positive. Instead of: “This is difficult and time-consuming” notice the response when you say “It’s not easy or quick, it’ll be satisfying when you complete it though”.
Problem solving with a question
If you ever want to solve a problem, before you go to sleep set your unconscious mind a question. Phrase it positively e.g. “What’s the best way to solve XYZ?”. Imagine what it will feel like when you wake up in the morning with the solution in mind. You’re likely to wake in the morning with an answer.
The effect of stress on your memory
Ever had the experience of seeing someone familiar across a room at a party and forgetting their name. The more you wrack your brains the more the name eludes you. But as soon as you leave the party, the name pops back into your mind.
Our unconscious minds are affected by our stress levels. The more you try to remember, the more stress you are putting on yourself and the less your mind will want to recall it. As soon as you relax, the memory comes flooding back.
Apply that to driving tests, job interviews and presentations. Of course, there’s a balance to be made between a healthy state of focus and relaxation to achieve optimum results.
Focus on what you want (not on what you don’t want)
Successful people naturally seem to focus their minds on what they want to achieve (not what they don’t want to achieve). That’s more likely to see big success rather than just scraping by, avoiding failure.
An element of realism is healthy. But visualising your goal will set your mind working to help you to make that a reality. E.g. people who feel nervous before giving a presentation focus on their nerves and make themselves feel worse. Instead, imagine finishing the presentation and smiling to a standing ovation. Your body language and choice of words will make it more likely that you’ll achieve something like it.
It’s your choice
If you don’t notice your language and the power of your communication, nothing will change. But when you do communicate positively to yourself and others, with your outcome in mind, your ability to influence your results will increase. Thanks to the power of your unconscious mind.
Sara Longmuir, Business and Executive Coach, SLongmuir@shirlawscoaching.com 07941 015 866





